18 May Is Your Self-Worth Conditional?
Is your self-worth conditional? Is achieving a goal a requirement for you to love and accept yourself? Do you only reward yourself if you feel you’ve earned it?
While rewarding yourself for a job well done can provide an incentive for motivation, withholding self-worth because you feel you haven’t earned it can harm your self-esteem and mental wellness.
“Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it.” – M. Scott Peck
Just as being motivated by love, not fear, will help you feel good about your efforts as you work toward your goals, deciding that you’re worthy of love and acceptance even if you haven’t achieved your goals yet keeps your morale up and, ironically, may make achieving your goals easier.
Don’t wait until the end of your journey to accept yourself.
Telling yourself that you’re okay wherever you are on your journey makes it easier to keep working toward your goal. Why? Because a happy brain is a motivated and effective brain. You’ll feel more motivated when you’re feeling good about yourself in the process.
To build resilience, start with liking yourself.
Accepting yourself as is – just as you are today – helps you build a solid foundation that can withstand the world’s nudges and shakes that will challenge you. You’ll be better equipped to handle the ups and downs thrown at you when you’ve already addressed your inner turbulence.
When times are tough, don’t be tough on yourself.
Unconditional self-worth means that you care about yourself all the time and not only when you feel you’ve done something to ‘deserve it’. Unconditional self-worth means that instead of being hard on yourself during difficult times, you give yourself some compassion.
How would your life be different if you loved yourself as you are today?